July 2018
Ah, the 4th of July is coming. A time to barbecue and see friends and watch Baseball and celebrate our nation’s independence. But what was success for our country was a defeat, and a tragedy, for England. They lost their colonies, and they lost a portion of their income. No longer were we paying taxes to the crown.
Have you contemplated that, often, in order for one to win, another must lose? You want that promotion so badly, but if you get it, several others will not. You win, they lose. You want your team to make it to the Final Four or World Series or Super Bowl, but for the two teams that survive until the end, many were defeated along the way. One person’s, or team’s, success is another’s tragedy.
Tragedy affects everyone. Only a young child does not know some type of tragedy. It could be the death of a loved one. That’s a tragedy. It may be something we caused ourselves, like flunking out of school due to non-participation. That’s a tragedy! It could be something where we did everything right, but still lost, such as the job that went to the Manager’s nephew when you were the better candidate. Tragedy.
Throughout our lives, tragedies can take many forms and many degrees. It could be a national tragedy, such as Military issues anywhere around the world or in our own country (911). It could be a personal tragedy, such as a divorce. It could be financial, such as a job loss. It could be a family tragedy, such as SIDS.
The degree could be severe – 3,000 lives lost in one morning on September 11th. It could affect many people or just a few. It may be minor in terms of global tragedies, but it still hit you hard. Two children can be affected very differently by a family loss.
Some people respond to tragedies with anger. Others are able to shrug their shoulders and move on. Some people have to lay the blame at someone’s feet but never their own, but they need to blame someone. What about you? How do you react to tragedies? Some people fall apart while others get stronger from the adversity.
I have three very basic steps, Christian steps, for you to try, ABC.
Attention – When was the last time you had a good conversation with God? I do not mean a prayer before a meal or a quick thank you. In order to get past a tragedy, you want to have an intimate discussion with the Lord. Give the Lord all your attention, and accept all of His. Separate yourself from everyone, maybe in an empty room or car. Remove distractions, starting with electronic devices, and include anything that will both you. In my bedroom I have a stain on my carpet that has the most annoying habit of calling my attention. If you are going to be distracted by anything or anyone, find another place. And accept the Lord’s attention. You are that important to Him. Enjoy it.
Belief – You need to know, deep down in your heart, really recognize that God is in control. If you’ve never done that, truly given your heart and your life over to the Lord, now is the time. There’s also an ABC for salvation (Accept, Believe, Confess). If you truly believe that the Lord is omniscient, then He already knew about your situation before it occurred. Don’t worry about why it happened. Accept it. Don’t ask the Lord why – it may not be in His plan to tell you. If He does, consider yourself extra blessed. Truly believing that the Lord is in control of the situation allows you to relax. It somehow makes dealing with the tragedy easier. It also helps absolve you from unnecessary and undeserved guilt.
Commitment – Change your life. Now is the time to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again. It’s the time for new beginnings. Learn from the tragedy. Examine your feelings and the situation. Use this information to more intelligently and more intentionally live your life, closer to the Lord, closer to the way you want to live, closer to the person you want to be. So, ask yourself some tough questions: What are you doing right in your life? What are you doing wrong? Are you truly making good decisions, or only easy ones? If you haven’t been taking a quiet time, or prayer time, or Bible study, or whatever you want to call it, now is the time to schedule it into your life. You get to choose when, but choose a time when you can truly commit to it, every day.
Are there people in your life who don’t belong there (maybe people who encourage you to do things you’d rather not), or maybe there are not people who do belong (accountability partners maybe)? Who should you be listening to, not based on their willingness to agree with you, but based on their good decisions and Godly behavior?
What actions – exercise and diet, prayer time, discipline at work or school, do you need to implement and stick with? Anyone can exercise once or diet for a day; anyone can be a non-complainer and good employee for a few hours. I’m asking what actions do you need to set in motion that you will commit to doing on a regular basis (daily or a few times a week)? Not only will these actions get you through your current tragedy, but they will set the tone for a better, happier life, and help prepare you for future challenges.
Tragedies come into everyone’s life. We dislike them, but it’s better to deal with them than to ignore them. It’s even better if we use the opportunity to grow from them.
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