March 27, 2018
I recently heard a speaker reminisce about College days and an old friend he called Lynn. He said Lynn was wonderful but gullible. He and his friends, therefore, liked to prank this girl. One time, at the end of the semester, Lynn was preparing to drive home like many College students. They asked if she had filled up the car with gas? Yes. Checked the oil? Yes. Replaced the air in her tires. What?
So this poor girl excuses herself to go to the closest gas station where she requested they replace the air in her tires, because in all the time she had owned her car she had never done this. Yes, she was humiliated.
It’s 20 years later, and this gentleman continues to laugh at Lynn. In fact, he’s telling the story on her and getting people who have never met her to laugh. I thought it painted the speaker in a very poor light.
Now, he was young and immature when he pulled this prank. But, what does it say about him today, that he continues to laugh at an innocent and gullible person?
I see Lynn as trusting and obedient. I would probably have liked her in College and I would probably like her today. In fact, I would rather be the gullible and trusting person in this story that the mean boys who teased and laughed at her.
Is it really worth the laugh? If this had been done to me, I would have lost trust in these so-called friends. They were, in a way, boys who cried wolf. What if they later had accurate and useful information for me? Could I trust them? No! They let the woman leave the room and go all the way to a gas station and never told her the truth. Is it worth your reputation and trustworthiness for a joke?
In addition, if Lynn wasn’t such a great sport, you could lose friends over tricks like this. Is it worth it? In fact, I think you could lose a job over games like this. Is it worth it?
Some people may think, “Oh, you’re being too sensitive.” There is no such thing. Being too sensitive is like having too much fun. It can’t happen. No matter how sensitive you are, it’s a good thing – it shows care and compassion. How can those ever be negative? Calling people too sensitive is a way of deflecting the well-deserved onus from yourself. You were wrong and have been rightfully called on it – do not try to get out of it by claiming others are in the wrong by being too sensitive. The world would be a horrible place if people weren’t sensitive.
Now, I have been a practical joker, and I got as well as I gave. Yes, I buttoned all my roommates shirt sleeves together so when she grabbed one, she brought every one in her closet with her. I also found myself covered in baby powder for it. Yes, my roommate may have found peanut butter in her toothpaste tube, but I found my toothbrush bristles glued together. Harmless fun is a great thing. You can’t have too much fun!
Taking advantage of gullible people just isn’t the same thing. While I am not the person in question here, my rancor is more about bragging on the prank twenty years later. I’m guessing Lynn is less gullible today, but our speaker seems to be just as immature as he was in College.
Again, I would not want to trade my trust in others. I tend to be very obedient and I think that’s a good thing. If I have to stop trusting someone, and I can’t respond to a simple request or suggestion, is there really a relationship there?
So, before you take advantage of others’ innocence, or retell a story where you think you come out great at the expense of others, please ask yourself – is it really worth the laugh? Maybe it’s time to look forward to more creative uses of your sense of humor. I’m not preaching here, just asking a question.
Lindy is a Speaker, Consultant, Author, and Columnist currently living in Atlanta, GA, and available to answer your questions anywhere in the world. Lindy offers multiple seminars to make your employees the best they can be. Learn more at www.LindySpeaks.com or www.EarlMarketing.com.
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